Wednesday, 28 September 2011

is constant prayer an admission that you live in a horror movie? (religiorant)

some people defer to the power of prayer for reassurance that they will survive a hurricane when it is bearing down upon them, and some use prayer to face difficult moments in their lives, some even need the power of prayer just to make it through the day itself, just to help them deal with all the evil twists and turns that are thrown their way every day as if they were living in a Hollywood Horror movie!

Constantly being ready to battle the evil in the world, via prayer, would seem to be a necessity for some people, seeing how at any second someone might reveal themselves to be an evil atheist to the poor-unsuspecting-holier-than-thou-extreme-in-the-name-of-Jesus-I-pray-religious types, thus leading to much wailing and gnashing o the teeth at the mere presence of a non-believer and theeeerere's nothing like a good old PRAYER to ward off the evil atheist and his probable liberal agenda.

so given that some "extreme" believers act like they are dealing with Satan himself herself when they encounter any non-believer or any other Satan supplied shit, (otherwise known as "life") do they really go around living their lives from day to day as if they are in a real life and real time horror movie? I mean, it's not like an evil atheist can be easily "spotted" - it's not like those evil creatures walk around with bits of flesh falling off their bodies as they drag one leg behind saying "braiiiinnns ... bwraynnnsss.. brayayayaiinnnsss" thus making it clear to the extreme believer who is evil and who is not.

that is, does the religious fundamentalist, who sees the work of Satan in everything (ooooo is *he* an atheist? I *beT* Satan is an aTheIST!) that they don't find to be "godly" in their silly little worlds, face every day with a perpetual need to walk around with a prayer ready to be chanted and a cross clutched to their chests, held there to ward off all the evil vampatheists and other such vile anti-christ creatures of darkness?

And paranoid extreme believers realllly need to be vigilant in their efforts to ward off the evil unbelievers, don't they?

because they just *never* know when one of those vile non-believer creatures is going to rise up from below and crack open the ground and spew forth from the pits of hell on a wave of Satanic lava and rip the soul right out of the body of the unwary christian, sucking that poor unwary christian soul back down to christian hell for all christian eternity - and yes - the christian ground would close back up again as if nothing christian happened, thus leaving behind a fresh atheist-corpse-of-a-person where, just ten christian seconds previously, there once stood a pleasantly good christian and nice good Jesus christian and good loving and good christian god fearing and good christian christian, just minding their own good christian business, probably on their way to a good christian prayer rally or some good christian church cake raffle or something else equally as christiany christian good ...


prayer does have a use during the horror movie that is the extreme believers life though.

Especially useful is its ability to alleviate a sense of impending doom, because it gives the believer something to do when faced with some impending crisis.

The advantage to the person praying, is that if they didn't pray, we could very well have a full blown spaz attack on our hands.

And we all know that having a spaz attack, could very well be detrimental in any crisis situation, so yelling and screaming about how "Jesus is LORD" is not a good thing to do when a split second of distraction could see everyone dead.

For example: imagine you are a believer in a car as the passenger and the car is suddenly faced with some ungodly danger, as the passenger you could sit there and freak the fuck out screaming and yelling, thus distracting the driver and killing everyone involved.....

....or.... could be a good little Christ munchkin and sit there silently in prayer with your eyes closed, as you pray to god Jesus Christ Mary holy mother of god Joseph and the holy ghost and father in heaven et al; that the driver is competent enough to avoid the impending doom. By remaining calm, you do not potentially distract the driver nor ruin the horror movie for everyone else with your incessant little comments and/or screaming about how god is going to help you defeat Satan and of course, Satan just happened to manifest itself as an impending crisis for *you* personally, thus by "defeating" satan with your prayers you save the entire earth. Just like you are fucking superman or some other superhero. And then repeat as necessary to describe the rest of your entire paranoid real life horror movie.

So yes, prayer does have a use, but of course on the other hand, one would hope that when one is driving, that one would *not* sit there in silent prayer in the face of some sort of danger, especially when slamming on the brakes might actually prove to be a quite prudent move at that particular moment.


Does non-belief really scare the fuck out extreme believers so much that they live their life as if it were in a 24hr horror movie marathon?

I have seen quite severe reactions when people figure out that I am not christian. One guy even implied that I deliberately deceived him because I wasn't upfront about telling him that I was not christian. Hmmm? wow. okay. It was like he was talking to me then he glanced in a mirror, thus figuring out that I was a vampire seeing how I had no reflection, or something like that.

And does prayer give the overly-christian-but-completely-not-christian "christian", that same sort of "release" that the viewer gets in that last scene of the suspenseful horror movie cliffhanger where the heroes of the story have finally overcome every last obstacle that saw them one inch away from death for the entire movie?

eg. an extreme believer wakes up, faces the day; they go about it; they leave the house but then if it gets too ungodly, they pray to god to save them from the wickedness that presents itself; and that gives them the (Ray) comfort to do so; then they get through their problem; amen. (repeat as necessary for the next scene in the horror movie for that day) ...

just like a holly wood horror movie .... Nightmare on Jesus street 1 2 and 3 .... except with prayer, there's a catch, at least for the "christians" because you're not supposed to pray for *things* to happen, you know that, right?

"oh lord won't you buy me, a Mercedes Benz" ... ah no, sorry Janis. that is *idolatry*, because to ask your god for something that you don't already have, is to presume that you are worthy of having that thing and unless you are god yourself, you don't get to make that determination.

you're supposed to pray in thanks for what you already have (that's a Matthew 6 reference, for those unlearned readers), but people don't do that, do they?

When faced with some life threatening problem they pray for the preservation of their lives - but if god decided to take your life at that particular moment, then why the hell are they praying? is it not arrogant to ask that god change its mind via your simple prayer at the last minute in this horror movie that is your life?

That's very up-yourself to think that *you*, can change the mind of *god* - god's perfect plan for everything and suddenly *you* think that you can have god alter that plan at the last second right in the middle of the live broadcast that is your horror movie life?!?!??


it seems that prayer gives people comfort in the face of disasters and evil-ungodly things.. well, I'm glad that those people feel some sort of comfort out of it - but why does it give comfort? What is the implication of getting that comfort? You see evil -> you pray -> you get comfort -> you carry on ... but what if the "you carry on" bit doesn't happen? .... you *die* perhaps?

so ... how do you get comfort from prayer in the face of the evils in your horror movie life unless you *already* "know" that you are *already* saved. And if you don't think you are already saved, what makes you think this last second prayer is going to make a difference to whether you are saved or not?

as a "christian", not only do you pray at the last second when you are *supposed* to spend your whole lives doing good deeds for needy, but your prayer at the last second also makes the bold assumption that little old *you* can change the mind of god in the last few seconds before it snuffs out your life ...

B U L L S H I T - Y O U R S E L F - M U C H??

this is very much akin to watching a "hollywood formula" horror movie where the hero faces adversity; the crowd identifies with the characters; the audience lives vicariously through the plight of the characters; the characters battle for their lives and the blatantly stupid guys and super cute supposedly teenaged girls with big tits and short skirts are killed off, then at the very last minute the hero of the story, will come up with a Hail Mary prayer of an idea thus saving his, her or the entire planets' butt at the VERY last minute, thus living to face another day at the end of the movie, possibly in an even lamer sequel to the horror movie that is your life.[**]


[**] Have you ever noticed in some movies that if the characters had just sat there and did nothing whatsoever, that the end result would still have been about the same? Well, except in the movie, all the characters that went on that adventure were all killed, whereas had they just stayed where they were when the movie started, no-one would have got hurt?

mostly written, Sunday, 28 August 2011, mostly ....

Saturday, 17 September 2011

atheists focus on trivial religious things (religiorant)

i find it quite disappointing to see atheists continually focusing on the trivial things that make up religion.

sure religion is pathetic and it can be quite therapeutic at times to boost the self esteem of the non-believer to tear religion to shreds as often as is possible, but for myself, I have found that after a point, it has become rather petty to pick apart the bible, verse by verse when the whole thing can be summarily dismissed as a **story** book without bothering to go into the details of why it is totally crap.

stories like Adam and Eve and the tale of Noah's Ark for instance ... they are trivial and laughable *stories* and they are so full of technical holes that we know it's impossible for the stories to be true as they have been written down.

But atheists should forget all of those trivialities - because so fucking what if people believe in some totally outrageous story? ...

it's a *story* and people who believe in silly fairy tales, do not *care* if they believe in silly fairy tales!

people like their stories, no matter how stupid you may think they are.

As an example: at least one fanatic christian had the audacity to tell me that Star Wars is just a story, with the implication that they were trying to put forward being that Jesus is real, and Star Wars isn't ...

*facepalm* ...

So what if Star Wars isn't real? I like it, you can't change my mind, but now that I know that my liking Star Wars annoys you on some level, I'm going to be even more in your face about Star Wars now!

And that is exactly what happens when the atheist confronts the believer over some trivial aspect of their religion. The atheist ends up making the believer clutch even harder onto their religion.

When you attack christianty, it's like trying to take away a child's toy, so christianity is very much like the teddy bear of a child, a filthy teddy bear for the most part, but if you try to take the teddy bear aware from the child, the child is often compelled to give it even more attention. The child will clutch onto it even harder.. MINE!

So, "so what" if the 'teddy-bear' bible has talking donkeys and snakes? so what if we would all be inbred if we all came from two people? so what if the Noah's flood would have destroyed the entire food chain on the planet?

the majority of christians could not give a crap about all those stories, probably because they have not even read them, let alone understood them even if they *did* read them, so why would they care if you taunt them about their silly stories?

It's like some person making fun of Star Wars by pointing out the errors in Empire Strikes Back and therefore the whole Star Wars universe can be dismissed. Like the scene where Luke Skywalker says "That armour's too strong for blasters!" in reference to the AT-AT snow walkers, and then fifteen seconds later, they blow up the AT-AT, with blasters...

Now I might get fucked off at some person for pointing out that massive mistake in Empire, but once I get over the fact that this error is there, I don't care about it, it doesn't kill my liking of Star Wars, and that's the same with christianity, just because there is one stupid bit of it, urr.. just because there are heaps of stupid bits in the bible, it will not kill off people liking it, because christians know little to nothing about their religion anyway. It's just something they do.

The Star Wars movies can be dismissed from being taken seriously because they are stories, so even if there are little errors in it, the basic story remains intact. ie. They weren't meant to be "real" in the first place, and there is always the artistic license to consider, where the story-teller gets to tell it with whatever flare they want.

christianity can also be dismissed outright because it is a story. it is a story that is not real and i'm sure plenty of the bible had its two thousand year old special effects to add some flare of its own.

But stories can teach people lessons, regardless of whether they are full of shit or not, so it doesn't matter if it's crap or true or real, the underlying story can give people important lessons, providing that they understand the story and its metaphors, though, so even the crappiest of stories can make valid points.

So in terms of christianity, the things that may seem damn important to the atheists about why christianity is a stinking pile of shite, like how the bible condones all sorts of shit eg. slavery and rape and forced marriage and animal sacrifice blah blah blah, the believer is probably going to be way too uneducated about their religion to even know what you are talking about in the first place, and even if they did go and read the bible, i have found that people often read their bible wrong ... and sometimes even grossly wrong, basically because the language is sufficiently confusing enough, that the unskilled bible reader will misread the bible, taking something literally, when it was a metaphor or vice versa.

So what is important to the atheist, might just not be a concern for the believer, at all.

let's just imaginate that some atheist posts an article about how lame christianity is - it's a good article, the atheists love it - but then some christian goes and misinterprets that article and writes up their article that says that all atheists are even lamer - and the christians applaud it, and laugh and frolic and taunt and ridicule and probably worse ...

but what do you expect?

believers who flare up like this - are not true believers - pardon the tired old mantra, but this is true ...

any "christian" who can become extremely offended at some off-hand remark or even a well written and intended article and go ballistic with a torrent (or even a trickle for that matter) of abuse in some sort of "revenge" does not believe in Jesus Christ...

we all know this

without going into depth as to how this is idolatry in that if you say you follow Jesus, but then you don't follow his teachings, then this Jesus you purport to believe in, is one you have made up, it might be based on the Christ from the bible, but where does this Jesus of yours say that you get to believe in him without following his fucking teachings?

that precious book, called the bible, does not say anything about taking a day off from loving thy neighbour, it is a full time job.

So, I recommend an approach for atheists where they ignore the frivolous bad stuff from the bible that christians don't even care about and focus on calling out the believer over the good stuff that don't care about *either*.

according to the story book, Jesus said his followers are supposed to share their wealth with the needy like their precious Christ Messiah says to, so if they don't, then they are not christian - they are not going to heaven, they are not going to live forever because they have not "loved thy neighbour" seeing how there are so many christians in this world and yet so much poverty.

ps. And it is a skill to read the bible, I find it very confusing at times, I recommend the works of Matthew Henry, a biblical scholar from the 1700s ... here is one example, Google for other in-depth guides to the bible.

Monday, 12 September 2011

merely declaring yourself "christian" is idolatrous ... (religiorant)

Jesus said to love everyone, ie. "love thy neighbour"... pretty simple, right?

it's the second of the *two* commandments that he taught, the first commandment being "love thy god before all others"

The parable of the Good Samaritan[1] describes what is meant by "love thy neighbour", the point of which is that it doesn't matter what you believe, it's what you *do* to help those in need that counts towards getting into heaven when you die.

According to the bible, only those who give up their worldly possessions and give to the needy are going to heaven. In other words, the way I see it, is that either you help those in need, or you don't get to call yourself christian...

Luke 18:22 Now when Jesus heard these things, he said unto him, Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, follow me.

Mark 10:21 Then Jesus beholding him loved him, and said unto him, One thing thou lackest: go thy way, sell whatsoever thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, take up the cross, and follow me.

Matthew 19:21 Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go [and] sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come [and] follow me

Take special note of how the Book of John isn't represented above, it would seem that a lot of people get the idea that all you need to do is "believe in Jesus" in order to be saved, and I believe that the Book of John is a likely suspect as to why people merely believe that, because what's the most popular bible verse?

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. --[KJV]

The most popular bible verse tells people that all they need to do is believe. All you need to do to be christian, and thereby cheat death and live forever, is to believe in Jesus Funky Christ, ie. you don't have to "do" anything.

So why wouldn't people get upset when you challenge their beliefs when their faith tells them that merely saying that they "believe in Jesus" will grant them eternal life?

I'm not saying that people who merely say they are christian are necessarily bad people, I'm saying that they are telling themselves that they are good christian people because they say and believe this arbitrary thing when they are supposed to do kind things for those in need in order to be a good christian.[1a]

So with the parable of the Good Samaritan[1b] in mind, if you *do* give to the needy, what difference does it actually make if you confess to believing in this character called "Jesus" or not; in spite of what John 3:16 would seem to imply?

My understanding of the Good Samaritan parable, is that it does not make a difference, as the Jesus from the bible would seem to not give a shit if you believed in him personally or not.

It would be like believing in Einstein but not knowing anything about relativity, but then expecting that you can then tell other people that you know about relativity, because you believe in Einstein. ie. if you're not being a nice and charitable person, especially to the needy, then you have no right to be talking about how much you believe in Jesus or for that matter even say that you are christian and you certainly do not have the right to talk about how moral you are because of this arbitrary thing if you aren't even following JC's commandment of "loving thy neighbour".

The point here is that this mere notion of believing upon the name "Jesus", would seem to be some arbitrary thing that is detached from what JC supposedly taught, so by saying "belief in Jesus" makes a difference as to whether you are a good, moral person or not, is to commit idolatry.

It's idolatry because "Jesus" is *just* a name[2]... it is a *thing*, at best it is the label we use today for a character in a collection of stories who may or may not have lived two thousand years ago... By not following his teachings you make the notion of "believing in Jesus" into a thing, you make it into an icon that represents *nothing* if you aren't actually doing what he taught.

By merely believing in the name of this Jesus or that he died on the cross for you or whatever it is that you think makes Jesus worthy of being worshiped; without actually being this good-moral person that believing in Jesus supposedly makes you, then according to your own christian rules, you are breaking the first commandment.

You are breaking the first commandment because you are putting this thing called a "belief in Jesus" up above the notion of what believing in Jesus was supposed to teach you. By putting this "thing" called "belief" so prominently forward, you are loving that mere thing *before* you are loving this god of yours by following its commandments. You are making that mere notion out to be more important than what that notion supposedly was all about: Peace, love and goodwill toward all humankind, right?

so if all you do is believe in this name or image of a person, which just happens to be Jesus handsome-blue-eyed-white-fellow Christ, and you do not follow the teachings of the Jesus from the bible, which I assume is the one you refer to when you say that you "believe in Jesus", then you're even more screwed than the non-believers, because you can't just declare that you are christian, you have to *be* christian.

You know? Like in much the same way that you can't just say that you are an astronaut, you have to *be* one as well. If you go around saying that you are an astronaut, but clearly you aren't, then you have to be content with being treated like some nutter who likes to pretend that they are something that they are not.

So is it not offensive that "christian" people go around merely saying that they are "christian"?

Saying that you are christian, is to advertise that you are a good, kind person, it says that you are willing to offer your generosity to the needy, no questions asked. By declaring oneself to be a christian, you are saying that you are willing to offer a meal and a bed to those who need one.

Is that what people are saying by declaring their "christianity"?

I don't think so, because I still see people wandering around, obviously without a home.

And no, "christians" don't get to ask "why don't the non-believers take them in?" - because non-believers do not go around bragging that they are nice charitable people who are commanded by their Messiah to help the needy. Non-believers don't even have a Messiah, remember? And if they *do* brag about being charitable, then that is probably because they are actually being charitable, probably to make a point that non-believers are capable of doing what many christians do not.

Acknowledging or having a "belief in Jesus", at least to some extent, sees the believer put aside the things they should be doing to get their souls to heaven, because every second that is spent merely confessing to a belief in "Jesus", is one less second that is spent not doing the things that supposedly gains entry into heaven. ie. helping someone in need.

Instead of actually doing something that would gain brownie points for eternal heavenly residence, it would seem that many "christians" merely "believe in Jesus" and that it is more important for them to declare this loudly .. and often... than it is to actually help those in need

they go to prayer rallies (bible says to pray in private), they praise Jesus and insist that everyone else should as well (that's rude, did you even ask what someone's beliefs were first?), they want prayer in school (ahem! "the bible says to pray in *private*"), they want the ten commandments up in courts (ahem, Jesus taught *two* commandments, are you jewish or christian?), they want chaplains instead of qualified counsellors in schools (and who do the non-christian kids go to?), they insist that marriage must be between a man and woman because children need a mother and father (ahem .. divorce? single parents? orphans? hello!!), they think abortion is bad in all cases (but you don't see them hanging out the front of abortion clinics offering to adopt the children they don't want aborted, instead you see them holding placards condemning women to hell as sinners and murderers), they want "god did it" taught as legitimate science ... blah blah blah ....

none of this blah blah prattle is about *loving* others, it's about changing the world to the way you want it to be and the only influence your puny existence can hope to grasp in this massive universe is to usurp the voice of *god* so that you feel that your puny voice somehow has merit because you think you speak of things that god allegedly would want.

That is more idolatry, you are a nobody, you don't speak for Jesus/god, not especially while you don't even come close to following its teachings.

"christians" would seem to be using this "divine authority" of merely declaring to be a christian (thus representing Jesus/god) as a means to control other people and make them do things in the way that "christians" want them done because these "christians" aren't grown up enough to accept the fact that other people believe differently to those beliefs of theirs that are from a time when we knew very little about the universe.

"Belief in Jesus" is nothing to do with being a good person, so one should not just merely speak of their praise for Jesus, one should do the things that JC allegedly taught, then you wouldn't need to speak of your praise anyway, as this Jesus of yours would see that you are offering him praise by the fact that you *are* following his teachings.

This is why "christians" should keep their religion to themselves, because unless you are actually being a good person, just declaring that you are a "christian" means nothing, because if you are doing things that a good christian person would do, you wouldn't even need to say that you are "christian" in the first place as we would *see* how Christian (aka Christ-like) you really are and decide for ourselves that the gospel of Jesus might be a good thing, but until then your words of mere belief will speak louder than the actions that you are not taking....


[1] Luke 10:25-37 (The Good Samaritan)
25 And, behold, a certain lawyer stood up, and tempted him, saying, Master, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?
26 He said unto him, What is written in the law? how readest thou?
27 And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.
28 And he said unto him, Thou hast answered right: this do, and thou shalt live.
29 But he, willing to justify himself, said unto Jesus, And who is my neighbour?
30 And Jesus answering said, A certain [man] went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among thieves, which stripped him of his raiment, and wounded [him], and departed, leaving [him] half dead.
31 And by chance there came down a certain priest that way: and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.
32 And likewise a Levite, when he was at the place, came and looked [on him], and passed by on the other side.
33 But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was: and when he saw him, he had compassion [on him],
34 And went to [him], and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him.
35 And on the morrow when he departed, he took out two pence, and gave [them] to the host, and said unto him, Take care of him; and whatsoever thou spendest more, when I come again, I will repay thee.
36 Which now of these three, thinkest thou, was neighbour unto him that fell among the thieves?
37 And he said, He that shewed mercy on him. Then said Jesus unto him, Go, and do thou likewise.

[1a] Honestly, if the richest 10% of christians (200 million people) gave at least 10% of their earnings ($5000?) a year to some central christian charitable organisation, some serious helping of the needy could be going on. 200million people times $5000 a year is a trillion dollars, that could buy a country! So, I can not believe that there can still be needy people if christians were actually being as charitable as their Messiah has supposedly taught them.

[1b] Ironically, the Samaritans were regarded as outcasts in much the same way that certain christians regard atheists these days.

[2] the letter "J" didn't even exist until about 500 years ago ... ... before English came along, "Jesus" was the Latin "Iesus", before that the Greek "Ihsous", and before that the Hebrew "Yehoshua"...

Wednesday, 7 September 2011

the concern i have with belief ... (religiorant)

the concern i have with belief is that most people just want to get along and live their lives as peacefully as possible, whether they believe in god or not. So if people are generally all the same, what's with all the people bragging that they "believe"?

What difference does that make? who cares if you believe? what's the point of believing?

People who insist on telling others that they are indeed, "believers", are the reason why atheists are so outspoken, ironically, it's those believers who go around telling everyone that they are believers that are the people that complain the most about atheists venting their views but if believers weren't so outspoken they wouldn't need to complain about the atheists being outspoken in the first place.

therein lies the problem I have with believers: they insist on being believers. If believers would keep their traps shut about being believers, then atheists would not have had an incentive to be outspoken.

What I mean is that at least the non-believers and people who keep their beliefs to themselves are not bragging about being "good" people, which is the underlying implication that i find in all the "christians" who insist that "believing" somehow makes them a "better" person..

i'm sorry but how much is there to the whole Jesus thing anyway?

he supposedly said you should love everyone ..

okay ... great idea ... got it ... now let's *see* people claiming to be christian, love everyone (or at least be nice to them), all the time...

because as far as I can tell, there would seem to be no distinction between how good people behave in general, whether they claim to believe or not, but the thing for believers is that if you're going to brag about being a good moral religious person, then you should at least fucking *be* a good moral religious person!!

if you're going to brag about anything, you have got to back-up your bragging with actions, so if you're bragging about being a good person, the only time you should have a chance to brag about being a good person is in between your deeds of kindness, except Jesus was very clear that bragging about doing good deeds is not a good thing, because then you are doing those good deeds, *because* you want people to praise you for doing them. Some christians even want to be praised merely for being a christian.... That is not how the universe works, you have got to be a good person *before* you go bragging that you are a christian, at least that's how the universe works in my book.

when i was growing up, you could tell if someone was christian by how frikking nice they were being.

i mean, it used to be a case of "oh no!! it's a Jesus freak! prepare to be bored to death about how to be nice to everyone by someone being overly nice" ...

now whenever i happen to see someone touting their "christian" beliefs, I just roll my eyes and switch off my brain because I feel compelled to tell them to shut the fuck up and stop ragging on everything that they don't agree with especially when those things that they are criticising are none of their fucking business.

the religious should not read these blogs, they *will* be offended

these are my rantings about religion - i speak fluent sarcasm - know this when you are reading and it will save you some heartache.