When I was a kid, all the kids would call all the other kids, fags, gaylords, homos, pooftas, poo hole punchers, and various other terms that were supposedly derogatory to gays that are too numerous to remember, and I for one, didn't even know what "gay" was, probably because we were kids that barely even knew anything about sex at all
But as it was, when I was a child I heard that Freddy Mercury was gay, so being "gay" was a matter of "whatever it fucking means, then so fucking what!" to me...
So for me, the word FAGGOT, and all those other words kids flung around to try and make themselves seem more "tough", were just insults to people that didn't really mean anything to me. So, to me, those derogatory words towards gays, never evolved to be hateful words in explicit reference to gays because I hardly used it in the context of someone actually being gay anyway, and I certainly never said it in the context of being hateful to someone who is gay.
eg. If I said to you, "don't be a FAG!", I would simply be saying - "don't be annoying" - and the use of the word "FAG" would be some sort of way to make my statement "light hearted", you know how friends call each other names all the time, they don't mean to be hateful, they are just "having a go" at you. We call this "shit stirring" in Australia.
So in that sort of context, the word "FAG" is no different to "RETARD", in that, the common meaning of the word is very rarely, if ever, used in the context of people who actually are mentally challenged (aka retarded), and if it is used in that context, it's usually not used in the sense of being hateful.
little-kid: "don't be a FAGGOT Mister!!"
busy-body: "you should not use the word FAGGOT, little boy"
little-kid: "what! why not?"
busy-body: "as it's hateful to gays"
little-kid: "what are 'gays'?"
busy-body: "ya know? homosexuals!"
little-kid: "homosexuals? do you mean like when two guys love each other?"
little-kid: "what's two guys loving each other got to do with *you* being a FAGGOT, Mister?"
the most common context I would use the words faggot and retard in, is this:
a RETARD is someone who is being ignorant in how they interact with the world, and a FAGGOT, is someone being *deliberately* and/or *willingly* ignorant in how they interact with the world.
I say "would use" because too many people get butt-hurt when the term FAGGOT is used, so I don't use it that much, which is the point of the blog, the word FAGGOT needs to be unleashed at the people who deserve to have it unleashed upon.
So in the above common context, ironically, someone who is being a deliberate ignorant dumb fuck homophobic arsehole, is a FAGGOT for not being able to keep their bigotry to themselves.
homophobe: "GOD HATES FAGGOTS!"
freethinker: "Well then, god must hate *you* for being a FAGGOT!"
So for me, as a child, FAGGOT was an insult to other people that was nothing to do with their sexuality, but rather, was used to insult their identity as if they were really *were* gay but not because of their sexuality, but because they "deserved" to be ripped on, they deserved to be riled up.
In other words, the point was to *insult*, not *how* the insult was made, so it didn't matter what the actual 'theme' of the insult was.
Other similar "untrue" insults, explicitly designed to insult, regardless of them being true or not, included saying things like "your mum is a slut" "you suck donkey balls" "you fuck dead dogs" ... none of those things were likely to be true, but we just say them to get a rise out of the other person as if they *do* suck dead donkey balls, that they *do* fuck dead dogs, that their mum *is* a slut, it had *nothing* to do with these situations actually being true, it was the implication itself that was the insult, what was said was actually irrelevant, and the bigger the embellishment, the bigger the insult.
but that sometimes backfired on us ... "shhhh!! man!! you shouldn't say that dude sucks dead donkey balls, because he really *does*!!! he has to suck them in order to make his kidney dialysis machine thing work or some complicated thing that his mother told me about once! and I've seen him do it, it's really gross, so shhhhh... he hates people talking about it!"
it's what kids do to rile each other up, and it's probably an evolutionary trait to weed out the weaker members of the group, as nothing is funnier than a little shit of a child that you just can't stand that goes into fits of temper tantrum when they are called a HOMO, and if people can't handle being called a HOMO, then I do not want them out in the forest with us while we're hunting woolly mammoths while we're trying to avoid being eaten by sabre tooth tigers..
So I personally would rarely use the term FAGGOT in the context of homosexuals, and likewise, I would very rarely (if *ever*) use the term RETARD, in the context of someone who was actually mentally challenged.
So for me, the word FAGGOT evolved into something that would be used in relation to some one who was being annoying! So while it may very well have started out as being a derogatory term towards gays in the 70s/80s, that might have been because they *were* being annoying, "okay okay okay! I heard you the first fifty fucking times! I don't care if you are GAY, stop being such a FAG about it!"
ie. for me the word FAGGOT is and always was used far more in the context of people who are being fucking annoying cunts, it's almost a reflex action in my brain, i see someone do something annoyingly stupid, and "FAG!" is quite often what my brain lunges to label someone in judgement of their being an idiot.
SO GIVEN ALL OF THAT, HOW IS IT THAT...............
how is it that you can call someone a FAGGOT and get into trouble for using a hateful word that is supposedly incendiary to the homosexual community, when it is extremely unlikely that you are even using that word in the context of anything that is even vaguely viewed as being "traditionally" gay?
ie. "The xyz footy club can't play footy for QUIDS, they are a bunch a of GIRLY SKIRT FAGGOTS!!"
for those who don't get the reference: "footy" in this context is *not* traditionally a very "gay" sort of thing, it is a very manly type of thing where lots of manly men man types nudge and throw and kick a bit of a pig skin ball around a big open field, quite often watched by large crowds cheering them on as they score points throwing said pig-skin ball around, while tackling, injuring and sometimes beating the crap out of each other. Basically it is the modern day, "politically correct" equivalent of the gladiator type battles that the Romans used to have, "politically correct" in that no-one is *supposed* to die. my how we've grown up, we don't kill each other for entertainment and sport these days, but we still pay good money to watch people beat the crap out of each other?? indeed, how we have grown..
So using the word FAGGOT is supposedly insensitive, but we can post images of gays and men in drag as an insult to other people online, which is deliberately using an explicit and obvious reference to "gayness" as a basis for the insult itself, in other words the insult is "YOU ARE A HOMOSEXUAL, HAHAHHAHAH!"
point being: you can call someone a FAGGOT and get into trouble, yet you can post an image representing homosexuality, and not get into trouble, or at least be tolerated.
while those notions by themselves, kind of don't make any sense in that they are hypocritical of each other, if we combine those notions with the following, that's when it really starts to totally make NO sense...
ie. how is it that you can call someone a RETARD and get NOT into trouble for using a hateful word that is supposedly derogatory to the mentally challenged when you are not really using that word in the context of those poor unfortunates who actually are mentally incapacitated, but then you DO get into trouble when you attempt to insult another person online by posting an *image* that quite clearly shows a mentally challenged person that obviously has down syndrome or are otherwise similarly mentally challenged, as if to say "you are mentally challenged, you are incapable of independent rational thought, you can't look after yourself, you are a dumbarse, YOU ARE A RETARD!"???
how is that you can call someone a FAGGOT to insult them and get into trouble for not being "P.C.", but we call each other RETARDS all day and no-one blinks an eye?
how is that you can post a picture of a mentally challenged person to insult someone else and cause an uproar of disapproval, but then we often deliberately insult people with quite explicit images of homosexual and effeminate behaviour, and cause an uproar of laughter?
This does not make sense... and it's very hypocritical, but that's what we do, we have people who get offended by the word FAGGOT, but they don't have a problem when somebody uses the word RETARD, and those same people often will not be offended by seeing an image of a person that is clearly homosexual in a very obvious way, but they'll get all upset when they are exposed to an image of a mentally challenged individual ...
I believe the people who act like this, to be the some of biggest bigots we have, as that's being two faced, it's alright to be a cunt all the time, that's staying in character, but to find offence in one thing, but then not the other, then what's the source of your fucking hypocritical problem?
I have a theory...
You don't like to *SEE* mentally challenged people because it offends you, as *YOU* don't ever want to be like that but you know that it's out of your control and if it where true, then there would be nothing you go do about it, so you are perfectly happy to call people retards as an affirmation that that would never happen to you, because if it was going to happen, it more than likely would have *already* happened as you are likely to be born mentally challenged, ie. it's not something you would likely choose if somehow you were given the option.
At the same time, you don't mind seeing extreme representations of gay behaviour because you know that *YOU* will never actually go to that extreme and be like that yourself, but you get offended by the use of the word FAGGOT because you are afraid that deep down, you aren't sure that you wouldn't go off and start being GAY yourself.
In other words you see the specific image of a mentally challenged person and reject that as offensive as that won't happen to you, but you find the image of a sexual orientation different to yours to be humorous, because you know that you would never consciously choose to actually go and do such a thing.
Thus meaning that the word RETARD is acceptable because there is nothing you would do that would make you consciously make you mentally challenged, but you find the word FAGGOT unacceptable because at some level, you know that it's possible for you to be a homosexual, there's nothing stopping you from choosing to run with your feelings.
well, it's just a theory....